I've said this many times. I don't care who anyone is sleeping with (so long as it isn't someone living in my house). I am as disinterested in the sex lives of homosexuals as I am heterosexuals. I have zero energy available to devote to it. I simply don't care. I have many, MANY, better things to concern myself with than the sex acts of others. So how I could possibly be described as bigoted on a topic about which I possess absolutely no opinion?
The secret answer to this riddle is, of course I'm not bigoted, nor is the rest of the roughly 60% of American who are opposed to gay marriage - as I am. What we are concerned about on this topic, is being bullied by a small minority to redefine our definition of 'normal'. The gay lobby is trying to compel us through the courts to call a cat a cow. The two are simply not equivalent in my view.
With that said though, there are ways in which marriage is treated differently under the law which I think some change might be appropriate to allow homosexual couples to fully participate in society. The tax penalty for one. If you want to pretend to be married, you're going to have to pay for the privilege, just like we 'actually' married folks. Areas like hospital visitation and other 'restrictions' should be repealed to allow homosexual couples to avoid special (arguably negative) treatment. But that doesn't mean I'm going to call it a marriage. You may call it what you like and I have no objection. But don't think for a minute I'll let you compel me to think of it as 'normal'.
It may inevitably be common, like single parenthood. But it won't be 'normal' to me. It will be a state of disadvantage for the children that actual marriage is designed to benefit - just like single parenthood is. It will be an example of someone who is putting their own satisfaction and their own selfishness ahead of the child's benefit - just like all those 'parents' who see their children as little more than an accessory. the only difference will be that it will be obvious at a distance.
I don't think single mothers should have their children snatched away by the state, and I don't think gay couples should either. But marriage isn't about who you're sleeping with, it's about children. And a small minority does not get to define the way the majority see's it's own traditions. You may call a yarmulke a 'beanie', but don't think you'll ever convince the rabbi or the rest of the congregation to do the same. Gay 'marriage' is not normal. It's an artifice designed to placate the ego's of the participants, and I am not going to think of it (or treat it) as a 'normal' circumstance no matter what the courts say.