As a gun owner and member of the NRA, I have to admit, I found your article in the Trentonian about your gun rights being trampled by your wife quite refreshing. It was honest and did not distort reality - which is an unusual thing to read in any NJ based publication where guns are concerned. I can assure you, you aren't alone in suffering that little bit of marital tyranny. And while I think your wife's fear is understandable, it is none the less an irrational fear.
The key to getting over any irrational fear is to face it down. Guns are to be respected of course, and safety should always be a fist concern. But in the end they are just tools - not meaningfully more dangerous that a circular saw or other power tool if handled properly. All you (and your wife) need to do is learn more about them.
Toward that end, I would like to extend an invitation to you and your wife both, to visit my gun club as my guest. I'm a member of NJ's largest Private Gun Club - Central Jersey Rifle and Pistol in Jackson NJ. I take dozens of first time shooters there for their first experience with firearms every year. I have a great deal of experience in coping with the concerns of inexperienced shooters and can absolutely assure you of your complete safety.
If you decide to come by, the very first thing we'll provide you with is a chance to learn all about the safe handling of any firearm. Swimming pools, bicycles and basketball kill more people in America every year than the shooting sports do, so it's perfectly safe if done correctly. And in the process of that instruction we can give you the chance to fire not only pistols and shotguns but also a semi-automatic AR15 and AK47 rifle.
I think you'll find it a fun afternoon, but most of all, it will give you and your wife both a chance to replace your fear with understanding. From there you can make a much more rational decision about whether you really do want to own a firearm of your own or not. No pressure or politics... just facts.
If it would make your wife more comfortable, I'll be happy to bring my own wife along as well. She's actually a first rate pistol shooter, and has several guns of her own. I'll be happy to make myself available to you at your convenience. Please feel free to contact me at the email on my bio, and we'll schedule something that's most convenient for you.
All the best,