Monday, April 24, 2017

- 13 Excuses Why

Have you seen 13 reasons why yet? It’s the latest hip binge watch on Netflix about a high school girl who commits suicide, but leaves 13 tapes which explain her reasons why. Though it’s heavily slathered with anti-male propaganda, it’s not terrible story telling, and the plot does drag you along. And the scene of the poor girl’s act of demise is horrifying to watch and that’s an editorial decision I absolutely agree with. It’s horribly de-romanticized, and I congratulate the producers for their decision to handle it so.

Though with that said, the whole thing is laughably unrealistic. There’s literally nothing bad that has ever happened to anyone in high school that doesn’t happen to this poor girl or that she doesn’t play some small part as a witness to having it happen. There is even an allusion at the end to a potential future ‘school shooter’, shown as the class geek who’s been secretly stockpiling guns. Though thankfully our heroine Hannah didn’t live to see that.

It’s not real life of course, its just Hollywood. It’s more a sincere left wing fantasy about the worst possible high school experience than a serious talk about a serious problem. And the solutions proposed are just like the rest of the useless tripe that the entertainment industry has foisted on us, and that our collapsing culture has embraced. ‘Talk therapy’ for the victims, ‘teaching boys not to rape’, everything except what might actually help.

More than anything else, it strikes me as a great example of how a society can’t bring itself halfway back from collapse.

What Hannah herself experiences in a movie covering 2 years of high school isn’t all that much different from what most girls go through these days, but most of them take until about age 30 to do it. She takes a run at dating the popular bad boy jocks, who treat her badly, ruin her reputation (In this fictional case somewhat unjustly – but what would you expect from Hollywood) and eventually turns to the sweet but passive beta boy who worshipped her from afar. But by then she’s sees herself as too ‘damaged’ to deserve him and in typical high school drama queen style, she can’t find a way to forgive herself. She spends the whole movie telling people to ‘leave her alone’ and storming away, but spends the next few minutes after each emotional outburst continually hoping they will chase after her. Its all very high school.

And yes, I’m sure you knew this was coming… there’ rape. Lots of it. Or at least as it’s depicted, it’s something that comes closer to rape than the lies most girls tell. It may not be the ‘hit her on the head and put a knife to her throat’ kind of rape that everyone agrees is wrong, but it’s not quite the ‘we were both drunk and I said yes and then no’ type of thing that is so common on college campuses now either. At the very least it’s in the grey area of serious sexual misconduct. And though in the real world there may be some genuine confusion on the part of a man, this fictional villain is cartoonishly unambiguous.

And that’s what I mean by our not having a society that can bring itself halfway back from collapse. What the Feminists of Hollywood want is half of our problems. They want to prevent rampant sexual misconduct that in reality occurs in a grey area, without having to give up the unrestrained promiscuous sex that plays such a big part it making it all happen in the first place.

How this plays in the film is that they want the boys of Hannah’s world to be constrained, but they want them to be constrained in the way that women would be. Even more to the point, they want them constrainable by women. They should be gay, or weak, or too riddled with self doubt to approach a girl let alone have sex with one. They should be passive, inoffensive things that allow the women to make all the choices about who is inevitably dating who, and the path that dating takes.

They don’t want to allow masculinity and the positive value of men to be something that boys are allowed to see and strive for because it highlights how unequal women are. It emphasizes difference between men and women that they don’t want to be forced to admit exist. And even if that’s the only thing that has ever constrained the behavior of young men, they think it would come at too high a price, so it’s never even mentioned.

In that world view where the most respected men are the strong and responsible, women are something to be cherished and protected. And women very much like that half of the equation. But today’s women don’t want to be forced to behave in a way that would make men think they’re worthy of that cherishing. They would rather try to redefine what men ‘should’ find appealing in terms that they get to dictate.

They prefer to be the competition to men than to be their partners. They want to be considered absolutely equal to men in all things, except when they don’t. They want men to be willing to sacrifice it all on their behalf and to chase them down the hall to profess their unwavering love, even when they were just told not to. But they still want to be able to tell him to go away when they feel like it so they can go skinny dipping in the hot tub with the captain of the football team.

Taken by itself, only one half of that formula for building society, is never going to work on it’s own. You can’t expect men to step up and do the hard work of being the kind of men that are good for civilization (and for that matter women), when they are only ever going to be berated for it. And women, as we’ve clearly seen, can behave how they like. But they can’t expect men not to react to it. They can have their night in the limo catching chlamydia from the lead guitarist, but that means they’re going to have to handle the rest of it on their own too. If the swelling ranks of pickup artist culture tells us anything, it’s that men are done picking up the societal tab for women. And when it comes to their support, their care and even their safety, today’s girls are very much on their own. If today’s women want those things, then they have to live lives that warrant it.

As the father of a beautiful 17 year old girl, I think that’s a shame. I don’t know what kind of a future is out there for her in the dating world. She’s a good girl today, but the pressures of society will find their way to her no matter what I do about it. And I wouldn’t want to protect her from everything anyway. Like it or not she has to live in the same broken society that I do. And just because I can see how badly broken it is, doesn’t mean I can fix it for her. I wish I could.

But 13 reasons isn’t pointing to any answers on that score. It’s the same old Feminist garbage about how if we would all be just a bit more feminine, everything will work out. Though it didn’t seem to work out too well for Hannah.

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